Tiku's Eulogy

 



How can I say good-bye to someone who has been a part of my life for over 40 years? How do we reconcile ourselves to the heart-breaking reality that our beloved Tiku is no longer physically with us? As I gathered memories together in my mind over the past several days, my grief-stricken thoughts & moist eyes, invariably painted an image of a very cheerful, vivacious, smiling friend, mopping back his long hair and convincing me that all is well with the world. Tiku’s life was taken away from us too soon and it is hard to understand why such tragic things like this happen to such good people. However, this is a question without an answer and we should not dwell on the loss of our dear friend. Today, let’s celebrate his life and remember all of the remarkable things he accomplished and how wonderful his life was.

One of Tiku’s best traits was that he always lived his life to the fullest and loved to laugh and smile. Tiku was an extraordinary, truly wonderful human being. His passion was friendship. He was an integral part of creating a solid foundation of friendship in our group. He never lost either his natural kindness or the moral compass that set his priorities. It captured his personality and expressed his individuality. Above all, he was a true friend, always prepared to extend a helping hand or listen to another’s problems, without expecting anything in return.

I am sure, each one of us has our own memories about him and would love to share their special & funny anecdotes with us. Please do so, if you wish. 

He has, in his own unique way, touched our lives and has given us a lot to learn, smile & cherish. A few weeks ago, on Guru Pournima, a few of us in jest, referred to him as one of our Guru. It would not be too out of place to say so. He had found wisdom & maturity, way ahead of most of us. His impish mischievous smile, made him a darling within the groups of boys as well as the girls. His energy & enthusiasm was infectious.

My relationship with him, evolved over the years with our gatherings, parties & picnics. In all the activities, that we organised, he was the one to get everything executed down to the minute details, from bus bookings to getting everyone safely back home ! Whenever I was feeling down and needed a friend to lean on, he was there for me. It isn’t possible to put into words the importance of his friendship and how much Tiku meant to me. He positively influenced my life in so many ways and I will miss him with all of my heart. He was incredibly responsible, intelligent and caring. I knew that I could trust him with anything and I respected him more than words can say. Tiku, thank you for being my friend, I will miss you forever and never forget all of the time we spent together.

 

While it’s tragic to think about Tiku leaving us so soon, he left behind a lifetime of memories that we can celebrate. With his passing, he leave behind a legacy of kindness, compassion and generosity. He was a positive person and would not want us to be sad today. If he were here, he would tell us to cheer up, smile and remember all of the great memories we all shared. Even though Tiku may be gone, his memory will live on in all of us forever.

There is much more to say, and we will have occasion to share our memories in the days, weeks and years to come.

 

AUM SHANTI !! AUM SADGATI !!!

 

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A few lines from the Bhagvad Gita

na jaayate' mriyate' vaa kadaachin naayam bhuthva bhavithaa na bhooyah: / ajo nithyah saasvato'yam puraano na hanyate' hanyamaane' sareere'

The Spirit is neither born nor does it die at any time. It does not come into being or cease to exist. It is unborn, eternal, permanent, and primeval. The Spirit is not destroyed when the body is destroyed. 

 

jaatasya hi dhruvo mrityuh dhruvam janma mritasya cha | 
tasmaadaparihaarye arthe na tvam shochitumarhasi ||

What goes around comes around. The worldly creatures are marred with mortality of lives and death is but inevitable. One, thus, must not lament over a dear one’s passing away but celebrate the life of the deceased and learn from the legacy left behind.

Comments

  1. VivM12 September 2021 at 14:18

    Very poignantly captured the essence of our dear friend. A sad aspect of life is that I lost touch with all of the school friends for a fairly long period of time. It is such a joy to relive those childhood memories, and school buddies are such am essential element of those memories.

    Very beautifully written Yogi.

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  2. PriyaY12 September 2021 at 15:19

    Very well written Yogi. It reminds us to live in the moment, be kind, to help each other out selflessly and leave behind a legacy, much like Mukesh did. I knew Mukesh reasonably well from our STA days but lost touch after 10th standard. Out of the blue, he messaged me last year and in an hour long text conversation, we caught up on the last 33 years, starting exactly from where we had left off. I will forever be grateful for that last and now memorable conversation.

    Aum Sadgati Mukesh, you are at peace, reunited with the love of your life. God will always be there to watch over your beautiful daughter whom you adored. All my blessings and love to her.

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  3. Carol13 September 2021 at 05:30

    Very well written Yogi. You have beautifully penned down all what we are feeling but cannot express. Tiku will always be my 3rd road friend first and then my class mate. I will always remember him as a smiling, jovial and helpful person, going out of the way to make others happy.

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  4. Priti Gomes13 September 2021 at 06:03

    Very well jotted Yogi. Tiku .....gone too soon and will be missed by all. May God grant him eternal peace.

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  5. Yogi's Corner13 September 2021 at 07:38

    FROM NILA on 13th Sept 2021

    “Jai Shree Krishna “ this is how we would greet each other every morning in the group. It is still very hard to believe Tiku is not with us . I connected with almost all class mates through WA group a few years back , but our friendship became very nice and strong. Tiku became a very good friend , he was helpful , supportive and of course jovial. May Divine angels guide him through the journey of soul. Aum Shanti 🙏🏻
    Lots of love and blessings to Vanessa.

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  6. Unknown13 September 2021 at 20:09

    Sometimes one feels but can't express.. Yogi you have beautifully penned all what we feel...Dear friend tiku you will be missed... May God grant you eternal peace.... Loads of love and blessings to vanessa

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